Embracing Escapism as a Neurodivergent Mom: A Survival Tool, Not a Weakness

As neurodivergent moms, we often face challenges that feel overwhelming. From sensory overload to emotional exhaustion, it’s no wonder we sometimes seek escape. Escapism, whether through fantasy worlds, online communities, or creative outlets, can be a powerful survival tool—not a weakness. Today, I’m sharing my personal journey with escapism and how it’s helped me cope with the complexities of life as a neurodivergent mom.

Escaping into Fantasy: Finding Peace in an Overwhelming World
Since childhood, I’ve turned to fantasy worlds as a way to cope. These were spaces where I could be myself without judgment, where I didn’t have to mask or fit into societal expectations. As an adult, I still find comfort in these spaces, from online communities that “get” me to quiet corners of the internet where I can let my guard down. For many of us, escapism isn’t about avoiding reality; it’s about finding a sense of peace and belonging.

• Creating Your Own Safe Spaces: Sometimes, finding real-life support is challenging, especially if you’re socially awkward or struggle with small talk like I do. Building an online community can offer that sense of connection without the pressures of in-person interaction. It’s a reminder that we’re not alone, even on our hardest days.

Understanding Escapism as a Coping Mechanism
Escapism often gets a bad rap, but it can be a healthy and effective way to manage the mental load of neurodivergent life. When the weight of everything—family, work, sensory overload—becomes too much, slipping into a safe fantasy world can offer a temporary refuge. It’s a way to recharge and prepare ourselves for the next day.

• Embrace Your Escape: Whether it’s reading comics, immersing yourself in online communities, or creating elaborate imaginary worlds, embrace your form of escapism. It’s not about avoiding life but creating a space where you can breathe.

The Power of Online Communities
I’ve found a sense of belonging in online spaces where people share similar experiences. For me, these communities have been a lifeline, places where I don’t have to explain myself or apologize for my quirks. We can openly discuss things like rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) and the challenges of neurodivergent parenting without judgment. It’s here that I find my people—those who accept me for all my quirks and complexities.

Embracing Your True Self Without Apology
It’s taken me years to reach a place where I can accept myself fully. From my fascination with astrology to my love for tarot and Funko Pops, these interests are part of who I am. For a long time, I hid these parts of myself out of fear of judgment. But now, I’m learning to let go of people-pleasing and embrace the things that make me, me.

• Protecting Your Authenticity: Let go of the need to fit into societal norms or expectations. Be unapologetically yourself, and remember that the right people will accept you as you are.

Closing Thoughts:
To all the neurodivergent moms out there, it’s okay to have your escapes. Whether it’s a fantasy world, an online community, or a creative hobby, these are your tools for survival. Embrace them. Let yourself recharge. And know that being different is a strength, not a flaw. You’re not alone on this journey—there’s a whole community here waiting to welcome you.